My journey to my family is no doubt very different to yours but the one thing we have in common is our desire to become mothers.
This desire plagued me my whole adult life.
After suffering with irregular periods and bad acne for three years after getting my first period, I was finally diagnosed with PCOS (PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome). The doctor casually mentioned, I wouldn’t be able to have kids, put me on the pill to “regulate” my cycle and sent me on my merry way.
If you’d have asked me then how this had affected me, I would have had no clue.
Life went on as normal but looking back now I can see that young woman struggling with her confidence, grades getting worse at school, pressured to lose weight and making poor decisions about her health and wellbeing.
I did what I was supposed to do.
I moved out of home, went to uni, got a job but it took a huge trauma to shake me out of this humdrum life and finally get on the right path.
It was halloween night and I was living on my own in a basement flat in a less than desirable part of London. I was fast asleep when I was woken up by some huge bangs. I assumed they were just kids playing with fireworks, but as I groggily awoke, I heard screaming, saw silhouettes running and then silence.
The normally busy road was completely still.
I can’t really remember what I did the rest of that night. Sirens soon followed but I stayed huddled up at the back of my flat. When I ventured out the following morning, my gate was cordoned off and I saw bullet holes a few inches above my window. A poor young man had been shot right on my doorstep.
After that night, I was afraid to go outside.
I struggled to carry on going to work and in the end went on extended sick leave. I had nightmares often. I tried anti-depressants and therapy but nothing seemed to help. It wasn’t until I was randomly walking past a therapy centre that I went in and signed up for something that they thought might help.
That was my first taste of acupuncture.
After about 6 sessions, I was able to leave the house and get back to work. It only took me a couple of months to decide to train as an acupuncturist and I haven’t looked back.
During my training I started to take better care of myself, I came off the pill and my cycle started to become a little more regular. I made small tweaks and changes to my diet and lifestyle. It wasn’t a health revolution but things slowly shifted.
As I was still overweight and having irregular cycles, I completely expected to struggle to get pregnant. I was ready (as much as you can be) for a battle. I’d armed myself with knowledge as more and more women were coming to see me for acupuncture as they were trying to get pregnant.
But it was easy for me to conceive both my boys.
And this is why I have dedicated my whole life to helping women who are trying to start their families. Not because it was difficult for me, but because it was easy.
If it could be easy for me, as a morbidly obese women with irregular periods, why can’t it be easy for you?
As women we are told that we have to work for anything worth having. We have to break that glass ceiling to get to the top of our game in our careers. We have to be superwomen to work, look after our families and keep on top of our house.
We can have it all – but it’s HARD and we still don’t get paid as much as men for the same work.
I want to support you in unraveling that story we are fed again and again. We have a right to choose.
For me that choice is fertility freedom.
Fertility freedom is about equality. It’s about allowing everyone a choice in how they want to create their families and for this choice to be honoured and supported without judgement.
Nicola Salmon is a gentle warrior for fertility freedom and a proud, fat feminist.
She supports women to reclaim their health and fertility, regardless of age, size, sexuality or ability, using natural medicine, support and virtual hugs. Every woman should have access to fertility support, no matter where her journey has led her in the past.
Her life mission is to change the way that women are supported when they are creating their families. She wants to give every woman the opportunity to embrace their bodies and fertility, messily and without judgement.
Nicola has spoken on several podcasts, online summits and events. Contact her if you’d like her to speak at your event.