If you’re an introvert (no idea what I’m talking about? Find out if you’re an introvert here – INFJ ) then struggling to get pregnant comes with a whole host of unique problems.
I’m an introvert through and through. Don’t get me wrong, I love people but I really crave 1-1 connection and I need alone time to properly recharge my batteries.
So what are the unique challenges of an introvert struggling with fertility? And how can you navigate them?
1. You find it hard to be in social situations sometimes.
When you are navigating the highs and lows of fertility issues, it can be hard to open up to your friends about it, especially if none of them have ever faced anything similar. What makes things worse is that it’s hard to join in conversations about love island, your friends latest crush or the drama at work when it all seems so insignificant at the moment.
You love your friends but how can you relate to them right now when you can’t tell them what’s going on and you can’t bear another night of gossip?
- If you have one close friend, try confiding in her/him if you feel comfortable doing so. Having that 1-1 connection can make it easier and can help you feel more heard.
- Reach out to strangers. Getting to an IRL support group might seem like your worst nightmare so why not try instagram? There is an amazing community of women on instagram supporting each other. You can even use an completely anonymous account. Find me @fertilityfreedom and search some hashtags to find some people who are going through the same issues as you (e.g. #pcosproblems #ivfstrongertogether #fertility #ttccommunity)
2. You know you *should* take better care of yourself but you’re always bottom of the list
- Try blocking out some time in your calendar each week just for you and making it non negotiable – even it’s only 30min to do exactly what you want. No work. No chores, nothing for anyone else.
- Set up an alarm on your phone that goes off a few times a day and prompts you to ask the question – what do I need right now. Even if you can’t act on it, the awareness is enough and the more you do it, the more you will notice and act on your needs.