I know it feels that way sometimes.

When you’re body doesn’t do the one thing that you want it to. The thing that is was designed to do. The only thing you need it to do.

It’s hard not to hate that body.

Your body has had a lifetime of hate directed towards it. I don’t know one women who loves every part of her body.

When you compare yourself to the women in the magazines and you aren’t thin enough/young enough/white enough/cool enough/flawless enough, you feel like you will never be good enough.

We have been fed this story again and again for every day of our lives. Women should be pretty, we should smile, we should put others above ourselves and most of all we should keep quiet.

I think that’s why it’s so common for us to wait until 12 weeks to announce our pregnancies, we wouldn’t want to upset anyone else if something went wrong, never mind that it’s the time we most need support from our friends and family.

Our bodies don’t hate us, they are trying to talk to us.

They are sick of not being fed enough, or only being fed low-fat/low-carb/low taste foods.

They are tired of being punished using exercise, just because you scoffed down a 5 biscuits at work when no-one was looking.

They are so exhausted from not getting enough sleep everyday, whilst you stay late at work to finish the 3rd draft for that pain in the ass client.

Enough is enough. It’s time we listened.

Your body is not broken, it’s simply telling you that it is not able to sustain a pregnancy right now, it needs your help.

Every symptom, pain and ache is your body’s way of telling you that something isn’t right. It’s trying to tell you that something needs to change and you need to listen.

The world we live is is designed by men, for men. Our whole lives are designed to fit a life where every day is the same.

But we are cyclical beings. Each day is not the same for us. That doesn’t mean we are unpredictable or crazy. It means that we predictably follow a monthly cycle if our body is able to regulate our hormones effectively.

Start by writing down what you notice. Track what day of your menstrual cycle you are on, what symptoms your body flags up and how your energy and mood shift. All these things are clues that can help you

This is your personal handbook. This knowledge will not only help you make informed decisions about your wellbeing but will allow you to finally look after yourself, the way you deserve to be.

Completely and without question

It’s time for the selfish revolution