What am I doing wrong?

Whether you’ve been trying to get pregnant or 3 months, 3 years or longer, I’m sure you’ve asked yourself this question before.

Short answer? 

Nothing 

Long and convoluted answer?

We are actually asking completely the wrong question.

You do the best you can with what you’ve got

That’s the truth. Each and every day you make hundreds and thousands of micro decisions about how you live your life. 

What you wear

What you eat

How you move your body

What you think 

What you say

Every single second you are, consciously or unconsciously, making a decision about how deeply you breath, when to take a sip of water, whether to focus on work or daydream about your summer holiday. 

Each action or thought may seem insignificant in itself but when you add them all up together, it makes your life.

You are doing nothing wrong. You are doing the best you can with the knowledge you have about how your body works and what your supposed to do to get pregnant. 

When you know better, you do better

Say for example you figure out that every time you eat a sandwich your stomach balloons up to the size of a basketball. Once you’ve figured out the link that sandwich (probably gluten!) = bloating, you’ll take that information into consideration every time you are offered gluten.

You might not always say no, because after all sometimes the emotional benefit of eating a piece of your nan’s famous chocolate cake is higher than the bloating which you know will follow.

But the whole point is that you get to choose. You can make an informed choice with the knowledge of the risks and the benefits of eating the chocolate cake.

So what is the right question?

If you’re doing the best you can with what you’ve got, the question then becomes how can I learn more?

And I don’t mean going back to school to train as a gynaecologist. We are all different. We have different bodies, different environments, different nutritional needs….. there are a million variables so the only thing you need to do is to learn more about your body.

How do different foods affect you?

How can you make moving your body fun?

What lifts your mood?

What gives you energy?

How we do one thing is how we do everything

How can you look after your body in a way that makes your life better rather than making you feel more anxious, depressed, guilty or angry?

Download my 7 day mini Nurture Fertility Journal to set you off on the right track. In 7 days you’ll begin to uncover some much about how your body works and how you can make better decisions about your health in order to get pregnant.